My, how life has changed in the last month. These last 4 weeks have been some of the best of my life, but also some of the hardest. My mom was here with us for the first two weeks, which was a total lifesaver. She helped keep Parker entertained, cooked dinner, and took care of the house for us. I’m so thankful for her! The last couple of weeks have been a little more challenging. There are times when it feels like I’ve totally got everything under control and times when I feel like everything is spinning out of control. And sometimes, those feelings all occur within the same hour. Adjusting to having a 4th member of our family has been just that…an adjustment.
Parker has been an awesome big brother from the moment he laid eyes on “his” baby girl. He wants to help comfort and console her, kisses her every chance he gets, and doesn’t like to leave her in another room for any length of time. What he’s still struggling with though, is the changes to his routine. Prior to Molly’s arrival, everything pretty much centered around him. Most nights, the 3 of us played after Matt got home from work, ate dinner together, Matt and I both did the bath and bed routine with him, etc…but now, I’m usually occupied with Molly, Matt and I are tag-teaming dinner prep, and Parker gets the leftover amount of attention we can muster while simultaneously doing the aforementioned tasks. It has definitely been a huge adjustment for him and not an easy one. The first couple of weeks were the hardest, and I feel like we’ve made some good progress in the last 2 weeks. I’m just incredibly thankful that Parker’s adjustment issues and the fits/tantrums that have occurred are directed at Matt and me and not Molly. He’s not taking it out on her, but I know his little 3 year old mind is struggling to understand this huge change. Matt and I are just trying to figure out how to balance lovingly disciplining him for throwing fits or otherwise misbehaving, but also being sensitive to the adjustment he’s going through. It doesn’t help that we’re doing all of this on way less sleep than we’re used to, with a screaming newborn in the background :).
We’re definitely still trying to figure out a routine that will work for all four of us, but for now…this is what our life looks like: I get up around 5 AM to feed Molly and then stay up to help Matt and Parker get up and out of the house for work/school. After the boys leave, I have coffee and breakfast, watch the Today Show, and pick up the house. Molly is pretty much in a 2-3 hour eating routine, so my day basically revolves around that. If we need to run errands, we usually do so after lunch. We leave the house every afternoon by 2:30 to get Parker from school. After we get home, Parker usually eats a snack and plays/watches tv/has ipad time until Matt gets home around 5:45. This is all usually done right by my side as I feed/tend to Molly :). Once Matt gets home, we begin the harried race to have play time, fix dinner, bathe Parker, and get him in bed at a reasonable hour. After that, Matt gets to have some time with Molly and I usually fall asleep on the couch until she’s ready to eat again. Its interesting when the 2nd child (or 3rd, 4th, etc…) is born, the family routine pretty much stays the same and its all about getting the baby to fit into the established routine…when Parker was born, we changed our routine for him. Such is the life of younger siblings, right?
Overall, the last 4 weeks have been incredible. Our house is a wreck, the laundry never ends, and there are always dirty dishes, but I count my blessings every single day for this precious family God has blessed me with. I have an incredible husband and friend and two happy, healthy, ADORABLE kids. Life isn’t always easy, some days are incredibly difficult, but I wouldn’t trade this life for anything.
My babies :) God’s timing is always so, so perfect.